The Mod Muse

I am kind of torn on this one. For the most part, my single life is pretty footloose and fancy free. I go out when I want, flirt with whom I want and well… do whoever I want! But having been single for a couple years, I am beginning to feel the need to have a  steady beau in my life.

The problem? I hate dating! Don’t get me wrong, it can be fun. But I would say 70% of the time dating is just a drag. A majority of the dates I go on are guys I have met on dating sites. And while you can get an idea of someone from an online profile, it hardly sums up the individual. Almost all of the men are nice guys but just not for me.But instead of telling them so right off the bat, I end up dragging it out for maybe two or three dates before I just stop taking their calls. Immature,  I know but I just don’t have the heart to say, “I’m just not that into you”.

The dates don’t always end that way. Sometimes, I meet a guy and we seem to have good chemistry so I go out with him a few more times. But then nothing ever comes of it.  These fellas I refer to as the ‘back burner boys’. These are guys who didn’t find you to be girlfriend material but they think you are a fun and interesting person and want to stay in contact with you. They usually add me as a friend on Facebook and I know if I am bored or need someone to flirt/go out with I know I can call on one of the Back Burner Boys to take me out on the town. I have done this with several guys and while I wouldn’t say we are friends exactly, it’s a mutually beneficial relationship with no strings attached.

A Back Burner Boy is all well and good (albeit juvenile) if you wish to remain a singleton but in the last year I have felt a general desire for a long lasting relationship. So for this installment of TIWTD, I am putting it out there: I want to date more. Not to just go out and meet new people but to meet MR. Right instead of just Mr. Right Now.

I am setting a few rules for myself.

1. I will only go out with guys I think I have chemistry with. Sometimes I  meet up with guys just because I find one aspect of their profile intriguing instead of analyzing if this guy would fit into my life (or vise versa). I need to be more realistic when it comes to dating profiles.

2.If I find out I am not interested in them, I am going to tell them. I have a bad habit of communicating with men waaaay after I realize I am not interested in them. I try telling myself  ‘he’s a friend’ when in reality, we are both wasting each others time in a go nowhere friendship. No more! I have enough friends, what I need is a boyfriend!

So when am I starting this undertaking? Well I travel to Copenhagen next week and since there is no time like the present, I have set up a few dates already. As with all my TIWTD, you’ll have to stay tuned to see what happens!